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Escaping Domestic Abuse with Matthew Troiano

May 24, 2022 | by Patricia M. Barbarito, Matthew Troiano

Experiencing abuse at the hands of a significant other can scar both body and soul and instill a deep sense of shame, but even the most shocked, hurt, and paralyzed survivors of domestic violence can leave these dangerous situations with the help of numerous available resources and allies. In this sensitive discussion, host Pat Barbarito and featured guest Matthew Troiano examine the process, challenges, and ultimate rewards of seeking justice after experiencing intimate partner violence.


Highlights include understanding:

  • What constitutes domestic violence – harassment, stalking, terroristic threats, emotional/financial control, assault, rape – and that it can be a single incident or a series;
  • How the comfort of a relationship can empower an abuser, confuse the victim;
  • What emergent relief is and how both temporary and final restraining orders are designed to protect;
  • How sharing these private details with members of the legal system can be daunting AND key in rediscovering inner strength;
  • Why ‘one-and-done’ might not always be the right resolution for every relationship;
  • How lawyers handle victims who decide to return to their abusers, mid-process; and more.

BONUS: Matt shares several anecdotes from his own experience that illustrate how relationships between prosecutor and victims can go from complete distrust to nearly familial bonds when handled with empathy and transparency.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800.799.7233 or visiting

In New Jersey? JBWS is ready to provide local support through their helpline 877.782.2873 or website

Former Morris County Chief Assistant Prosecutor Matthew James Troiano currently serves as Chair of Einhorn, Barbarito, Frost & Botwinick’s Criminal Practice Group. A highly experienced trial lawyer, Matthew has successfully represented clients during jury trials in the New Jersey Superior Courts, including those involving murder, aggravated manslaughter, aggravated sexual assault, sexual assault, kidnapping, aggravated assault, arson, aggravated arson, robbery, burglary, weapons, drugs and domestic violence-related crimes. To learn more about Matthew, please click here.

About Heartbreak & Hope

Heartbreak and Hope PodcastCo-managing partner and divorce lawyer Pat Barbarito thought she knew all about complex relationships and the laws that govern them – until her own marriage of 17 years ended and she determined to get to the heart of love, marriage, and human connection. Her journey spanned the entire scope of relationships – from the science of attraction to the financial impact of separation, to old myths that society still touts as true to new laws that outline how to navigate both uniting and uncoupling.

Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito offers insights, anecdotes, and guidance from a variety of experts and includes her own perspective on how best to thrive through any stage of relationship building.



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