Pat Barbarito, co-managing partner of Einhorn Barbarito and co-chair of the firm’s Family/Matrimonial Law practice, was a guest on the “Midlife Love Out Loud” podcast. Hosted by Junie Moon, the podcast features uplifting and powerful conversations with relationship coaches, healers, dating experts, spiritual mentors and other professionals to “help single women have a magnificent second act in their love life.”
In the episode, Pat, who is a sought-after guest and hosts her own podcast, “Heartbreak & Hope with Pat Barbarito,” discusses how to navigate love and relationships after a major life change like divorce. Pat speaks from experience as she is a seasoned divorce attorney with more than 40 years of experience who also went through her own divorce after 17 years of marriage.
One of the most powerful moments of their conversation, according to the host, is when Pat comments on breaking free from shame and how confronting her own story allowed her to move on and realize how important vulnerability is in healing.
“I remember so clearly calling my business partners and a few close friends [to tell them about my divorce]. It’s not that they were shocked, I think they were shocked that I was admitting it [and my marriage hadn’t been as happy as I had presented it]. I remember it was the beginning of my healing. I thought, ‘OK, my world didn’t just fall apart.’ And then I got myself into really good therapy. At the ripe old age of 50-something, I began to deal with issues that were festering around for many years and started pulling apart why I had married this person in the first place.”
Pat also created a list of values—things like emotional stability and strong family connections—to guide her in finding a more meaningful relationship rather than focusing on superficial traits.
Pat and Junie’s conversation on the “Midlife Love Out Loud” podcast can be viewed on YouTube or heard on Apple Podcasts:
Can You Transform Your Love Life After Divorce with Pat Barbarito – YouTube
240: Can You Transform Your Lo – Midlife Love Out Loud – Apple Podcasts
For more insights from Pat and Junie, listen to the latest episode of “Heartbreak & Hope” in which Pat, as host, turns the tables and asks Junie about the transformative practice of shadow work and its profoundly positive impact on navigating midlife relationships.